A new book · April 20, 2027
A practical guide for women who carry other people's emotional and practical load at work and at home, and who are ready to put it down.
You fix the stale project tracker before anyone notices. You rewrite the boundary email four times so no one thinks you're difficult. You remember the dentist appointment, the client's birthday, the colleague's mood. And when something goes wrong, you look in the mirror first.
That isn't kindness, and it isn't leadership. It's a habit, and habits can be unlearned.
In Not My Fault, Agnes Moorecock gives you a clear way to tell real accountability from unearned guilt, and the tools to put the rest down. Through composite stories of women in offices, hospitals and family kitchens, and research on who gets asked to do unrewarded work, the book shows why so many capable women end up as everyone's shock absorber, and how to stop.
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A simple test for what sits in your jurisdiction (your actions, choices and repairs) and what doesn't (another adult's feelings, poor planning or disappointment). Run any recurring stressor through it and the answer gets very clear, very fast.
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How to sit through the panic that follows a "no" without apologizing, backpedaling or offering a favor to make it stop.
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Short, calm wording for saying no at work and at home, without justifying, arguing, defending or explaining.
The Responsibility Matrix is the book's core tool. Get the one-page version free, plus a short note when the book is available. No spam, and you can unsubscribe anytime.
A practical, skills-based session built on the book's tools: the Responsibility Matrix, the first-wave pause and the Fact-Action-Close scripts. Designed for women's employee groups, professional associations, libraries and community organizations.
Available as a 60-minute talk, a 90-minute interactive workshop or a half-day session, in person or online. Educational, not therapy.
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